People do change! We grow and we always have our history. Mike and I still laugh in the kitchen in the morning while coffee brews. We grumble over national and world events. We share our very different perspectives and we grow, just a little bit. 47 years and we still do not agree on everything😂
I know this conversation well. It is two part, first, I believe everyone is capable of change. Only thing is, it means so much to you, but does it mean that much to them to change it. Because if it doesn't come from their heart then it will not last. Second, I have found that most people will resort back when pushed in a corner. Sometimes, trauma takes over and you just react, not meaning to do or say what you did, but it's the trauma. I do not believe I have changed over the years, what I do believe is that, like Carrie has said, edges get softer and smoother. We learn to do things a certain way. I am more refined than I was, but I can tell you, put me in the right setting and the ghetto will come back out like I never left!! Although, sometimes I think my story is sad, I used to trust people right off, you had to prove to me that you were unworthy. Now, after being burned so many times, even by people that say that they love you, now I do not trust anyone, not 100%. My mom I trust 99.9%, same as my son. But for everyone else, the percentage goes down. That is from personal experience, not saying it's the norm. I try to look at the good and go to church every week to fill myself up. I'm a work in progress, that I feel I may never truly get there. But then again, does anyone?
People do change! We grow and we always have our history. Mike and I still laugh in the kitchen in the morning while coffee brews. We grumble over national and world events. We share our very different perspectives and we grow, just a little bit. 47 years and we still do not agree on everything😂
I know this conversation well. It is two part, first, I believe everyone is capable of change. Only thing is, it means so much to you, but does it mean that much to them to change it. Because if it doesn't come from their heart then it will not last. Second, I have found that most people will resort back when pushed in a corner. Sometimes, trauma takes over and you just react, not meaning to do or say what you did, but it's the trauma. I do not believe I have changed over the years, what I do believe is that, like Carrie has said, edges get softer and smoother. We learn to do things a certain way. I am more refined than I was, but I can tell you, put me in the right setting and the ghetto will come back out like I never left!! Although, sometimes I think my story is sad, I used to trust people right off, you had to prove to me that you were unworthy. Now, after being burned so many times, even by people that say that they love you, now I do not trust anyone, not 100%. My mom I trust 99.9%, same as my son. But for everyone else, the percentage goes down. That is from personal experience, not saying it's the norm. I try to look at the good and go to church every week to fill myself up. I'm a work in progress, that I feel I may never truly get there. But then again, does anyone?
Beautiful ❤️
I love your story Carrie 💕💕